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Lisa King

August 28, 2012

Last Sunday night we were eating dinner and Kobe said, “I wonder what Daddy and Noah are doing?” 

Jalen didn’t hesitate to reply, “Probably playing footy.” (“Footy” meaning Australian Rules Football-which was something that Aaron was passionate about.) 

Harri seemed surprised that Jalen even suggested it and said, “They wouldn’t be playing footy on Sunday, Jay!” 

I cracked up laughing when Jay responded, “It’s probably still Saturday in Heaven,” allowing for the time difference between Tasmania and Heaven.

It was one of those funny moments I don’t want to forget. 

While going through a trial, it can be easy to dwell on everything that seems unfair and negative. But despite what we are going through, I know how blessed I am at the same time.  I’m blessed to have three beautiful boys who make me laugh, especially when they consider that their dad and brother are taking a break from sharing the gospel to play some footy in Heaven.

In the years to come, I want the boys to remember that yes, it was tough when Aaron and Noah  died, but we also got through it together, somehow, and even managed to laugh at times.

Five years ago I started our family blog. I didn’t know what I was going to write or if anyone would even read it, but I decided that it didn’t matter. When I first started blogging, I could sit for hours and go from one blog to another and thought about how my life was so boring compared to others’.  I looked at beautiful blogs with amazing photos of gorgeous homes and children, and felt inadequate and wished that my home was nicer or that I could bake or was crafty like so many other women out there.

So many blogs were beautifully written and I knew that I didn’t write as well as others, but after a while I decided-again-that it didn’t matter.  I wanted my blog to be real, to include the good, the bad, the funny, the sad, the challenges, and the joys of being part of our family.

I wanted my boys to be able to look back at the years that they had with Noah on earth and remember the fun things that we got to do with him. I also wanted them to remember the hard times, like illnesses and hospital visits.

I wanted them to have a record of all their school performances, church activities, their birthdays, trips to the beach or the snow, when new babies were born, times we visited the temple, and the times when I made them stand next to the same tree in the spring, so I could compare how much they had grown from the year before, even though they moaned about it every time.

I wanted them to know what was important to me.
President Spencer W Kimball wrote about the importance of keeping a journal and said:

Your journal should contain your true self rather than a picture of you when you are “made up” for a public performance. What could you do better for your children and your children’s children than to record the story of your life, your triumphs over adversity, your recovery after a fall, your progress when all seemed black, your rejoicing when you had finally achieved? Some of what you write may be humdrum dates and places, but there will also be rich passages that will be quoted by your posterity.  Get a notebook, a journal that will last through all time, and maybe the angels may quote from it for eternity.

It didn’t matter I’m not an amazing writer, it was just important that I wrote.  I’m so grateful that five years ago I decided to start keeping our family journal via my blog. What I thought was a record of our time with Noah has now turned into one of the most precious things we have. My boys spend hours looking through old posts, crying and laughing as they read about Aaron and Noah.

After Aaron died I remember reading a quote that said, “Enjoy the little things in life, because one day you’ll look back and realise they were the big things.”  I can’t help but think how important those little things are to us right now. And I’m so glad I have a record of them. 

Lisa King is a woman of faith with a zest for life who loves photography, chocolate, helping children with special needs and being a mum. TOFW first met Lisa at the Sydney, AU event in July 2011. We have been amazed at her ability to SEEK THE GOOD thru the trials that have come her way, including unexpectedly losing her son and husband within 4 months of each other. Lisa was born and raised, and continues to live in the beautiful area of Tasmania, AU and looks forward to the day when she can introduce her boys to Rexburg, Idaho, USA, where she has incredible memories of a year at college before returning to Australia where she met and married her sweetheart, the late Aaron King.