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Laurel C. Day

November 03, 2011

I was at the table watching two adorable boys eat hamburgers and listening to them tell corny jokes—the kind only 9 year old boys think are funny. These boys were in my primary class and I was taking them out for a little dinner date to get to know them better.

“Sister C,” one of them asked. “How come we’ve never met your husband?”

“Um, I don’t have a husband,” I answered.

“Really? Wow. How old are you?” the other one questioned.

I told him my age.

“Wow. You’re older than my mom and she has a husband and 5 kids!”

Yes, kid. That thought has not escaped me. Thank you very much.

“Do you want to be married, Sister C?” he innocently asked.

“Yes, I really do,” I sincerely answered.

“Does Heavenly Father want you to be married?”

“I believe He does,” I responded.

“Well,” he said, “If YOU want to be married and Heavenly Father wants you to be married, then what are you waiting for?”

Oh, the logic of children.

It’s been a few years since that little conversation and I still think about it from time to time. That little primary class got it into their heads that if they all prayed really, really hard, they could get their primary teacher married. Because, as their logical brains worked, if I wanted to be married and Heavenly Father wanted me to be married, well, then, I should be married.

They prayed in class and I even got reports of their prayers at the dinner table asking the Lord to give me a husband. Yep, it became a ward movement.

You know, those boys are on missions now.

And I’m still “waiting.”

As my life’s path has crossed with other women, I have noticed a common theme among so many of us.

We are all women in waiting at one time or another.

Some of us are waiting for promised children or the return of a prodigal.
Some of us are waiting for healing, whether physical or spiritual.
Others are waiting for forgiveness, either to receive it or grant it.
There are women waiting for a spouse to come to church with them (while others of us wait for a spouse. Period.).

It doesn’t seem to matter the age or the stage of life. We wait. And while our circumstances are all so very different, our life journey seems so often to be the same. That is not to say the experiences are the same, but in the actual process of learning and growing…and waiting, we are very much in this together.

In the scriptures, waiting is often right next to patience:
“I waited patiently for the Lord…” (
Psalms 40:1)
“the patient waiting…” (
2 Thes. 3:5)
“waiting patiently” (
D&C 98:2)

The connection of these two words is likely very obvious. It doesn’t matter if you’re waiting for a delayed flight or a delayed blessing—the attribute of patience helps you find meaning and fulfillment in the midst of the waiting. Ironically however, it is the waiting that often most tests our patience, particularly when we are waiting for something that is important to our hearts or eternally significant to our progress.

I have come to know for myself that God has had, does have and will always have a plan for me.

And while some of that plan and many of those promises have not come in the ways I would have expected or in the timing I initially hoped for, I have learned to trust the path and the timing of God’s promised plan for me. And in the waiting on that plan, some of life’s sweetest lessons have become mine.

So, to the cute kid in my primary class several years ago…what am I waiting for, you ask?

Well, I am waiting for God.  I’m waiting for His perfectly timed plan. I’m waiting for His promises.

And in the meantime, I’m trusting Him and following His will.

And doing it with patience. Because that’s what He asks.

"For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise." (Hebrews 10:36)

Laurel Christensen grew up in California, Kentucky and Missouri. She has a Bachelor of Science degree from Brigham Young University which she received after serving in the Riverside California Mission. She has spent most of her career at Deseret Book Company where she worked for several years as the Director of Entertainment, producing shows like The Forgotten Carols and launching and managing Jericho Road, among other artists. She is currently the Vice President of Product Development and also oversees the Time Out for Women program, spending many weekends on the road producing Time Out events. Laurel has a Masters degree in Communications Management and thinks it would be fun to someday be called “Professor”.  She is the author of several talk CDs and books for young women.